On Friendship

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In 4th grade, I came home and told my mom about how one of my ‘best friends’ started hanging out with a group of girls that were notoriously MEAN. This friend became mean too. Calling me a jerk (um, rude) and telling me that my lips were too big (um, okay).

That’s when my mom looked me in the eye and said,

“Choose your friends. Don’t let them choose you.”

I remember thinking that it seemed a little bossy. Like I was supposed to be a leader. But now that I look back on it, I’m pretty cool with that. I’ve always had really amazing friends. I look around my life now as an adult and am constantly amazed at the quality of people in my life. I like to think that it’s not by accident.

I always hear quotes like: Surround yourself with people who will lift you higher. Surround yourself with people who make you a better person. Surround yourself with people who build you up.

Those statements aren’t necessarily false but I’ve made it a point to surround myself with people who are happy and content with themselves first. Whether it’s a friendship, in my own marriage or with those I choose to go into business with – their energy is naturally contagious and encouragement is never scarce in a relationship like that. I don’t depend on Adam to lift me higher. I believe the things that I believe because I made that choice. I am strong.

And so are you. Go out and make a new friend today. 

July 16, 2013